Dress With Class If You Don’t Want To Attract Trash

Yes, crew! I have been a victim of this in my early 20s. I remember wondering why did I always attracted perverts or men that only wanted to try getting into my pants. Insert 20 something photo below. ๐Ÿ‘‡

Can you believe I went on a date in the left photo dressed like that and expected to be treated like a queen? and then come back home complaining about how the guy was such a pervert or a creep? Thank goodness for wisdom and growth. Okay, I do believe in flaunting your curves and shape, but wearing a deep low cut with a mini skirt short as a shirt on a date does not scream BE MY MAN! It screams BE MY MAN FOR THE NIGHT! It screams, I’M HOT IN THE PANTS! Also even if a woman is dressed a bit risque (that’s a fancy word for extreme.) it doesn’t give a man the right to proceed in treating her with disrespect and perverted-ness.

A woman should be treated with respect and not be judged just from her appearance, but sadly the way you dress will give people the radar of what kind of person you are. I know, I hate believing that too, but it’s true. What isn’t fair that people automatically will assume your easy based off your body. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ

Here are some photos below that will give men an example that you are looking for a long term from the get-go. You can still be sexy and classy and embrace your body without exploiting who you are.

It goes both ways, but this is referring to women that wonder why they attract men that only want to get in their pants. What’s the message you are sending? I’m not saying dress boring or un-sexy, dress how you want by all means, but if you want more respect you can combine sexiness with class by not exposing every of your ass. lol

Not being so desperate in conversations and thirsty so soon, even if you are dressed nice. When you are just getting to know someone, the early stages and first impressions counts so much for the outcome.

During my younger days I’d dress this way at times going out, but it would give the idea that I was easy when I wasn’t. I thought sexiness and a sexy body would give me a relationship and that my figure or showing skin would make the guys I want go crazier over me and fall in love with me. Man, did I have it all wrong. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚ A lot of young women believe this as well, but a person does not fall in love based off your assets. lol Yes, it attracted men but they were attracted to me for the wrong reason and not for what I wanted. I knew I wanted more.

I was dressed like I wanted a fling when I didn’t. Was it because I thought my body was the way to a man’s heart? Did I lack the self love to dress with self respect when I seeked love from others? This is why they say you can’t truly receive true love if you don’t love yourself first. Sometimes women will hate hearing that and think it means boredom, but trust me, it will help you in the long run and improve your self worth.

If you are seeking love, you should let your goodies and sexual side be the surprise within. If you love to show the print of your vagina in tight pants, have cleavage as low as the south of the border and booty cheeks hanging out of shorts, go ahead. ๐Ÿ™…โ€โ™€๏ธ If you want someone to first get the impression that you are long-term, you are going to have to not be so openly sexually at first or dress so raw during the first few dates .

If you want to dress sexy or like an instagram baddie, it’s fun too and represents your confidence of coming out your shell, but going over the top with it will immediatly give others the impression that you are fast ( even if you aren’t.) There is classy feminine, classy sexy and sexy trashy; which one are you okay with? So if you don’t want to be judged as an easy target, add some class or else you’ll attract trash. I hope this helps.

Catepillars and Butterflies.

Here is a photo of me in 7th grade before I physically transformed and blossomed into a butterfly ๐Ÿ›๐Ÿฆ‹ I also realized that people who were ugly on the inside can transform to inner beauty.

Remember when some of you all would call me all those rude names in the 7th grade and made fun of my weave ponytail? lol I admit, I was very much a tomboy and didn’t care about being pretty until my senior year of high school. I was just enjoying being a kid and wasn’t at my blossoming stage yet. So many girls my age moved so fast and I didn’t fit in. Many times I’d eat my lunch in the cafeteria bathroom so the bullies wouldn’t embarass me. 

At this age, my bullies didn’t know of other things I had going on in my life. Junior high was a living hell. Imagine getting bullied everyday about your hairstyles as soon as you got on the school bus and then being bullied in school by both girls and boys..then riding the school bus home to get bullied again. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ Sometimes when I’d go home, my dad argued so much if my grades were low or if I had gained weight. Just like the kids at school didn’t know I had things going on at home, my dad didn’t know I had things going at school.

My confidence had dropped low at the time because of people; but no matter what, I always remained sweet until I pushed to the limit lolย  I find it funny, the same people that did me so wrong are asking for my advice today and my dad finally seems impressed with things I work hard for. I’m happy about that because it shows that people can change..The best advice I can give you is to treat others with kindness. I have this belief that being kind to other people and having a nice personality makes you all the more beautiful. Don’t be negative or dramatic in life.ย  Blessings will soon follow once you are kind to others. Don’t waste time awaiting revenge. Their karma sometimes will allow them to become better people. Working on yourself mentally and physically is the greatest transformation of all.. To transform into a butterfly, you must use this time to work on you in those areas. To win and to get there is to not focus on them showing their ugly side, they haven’t transformed yet either. Keep smiling. Keep moving.

-ReNita XOXO ๐Ÿ’•

KiCk.PuSH

20200816_125851I just finished my 2 miles and I almost wanted to stop, but I kept pushing through to get to the end. I was always told if you want something hard enough you have to put in effort and make it happen. You can’t just sit around and wait for things to happen without kicking and pushing forward.

You must learn to kick through the walls and push away the negative. This concept is applied sometimes in Karate and even with skateboarding. (All thanks to Lupe Fiasco’s hip hop hit Kick Push.) When you see karate you see the martial artists going against the oppentant he pushes him and kicks him, blocking him from trying to win his victory.

In skateboarding, the skateboarders have a technique with their foot where they push to get some good motion and kick to glide through. I find it interesting that we must use the same techniques in life, but mentally. Are you kicking and pushing through all the BS in order to win your victory? Are you gliding through?

Are You A Little Red Corvette? Fast and Easy?

20200814_002832After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell ๐ŸŒฎ, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually understand the lyrics and the meaning. I mean, growing up I always assumed he was referring to a red Corvette but aha I was misled. Prince was symbolizing a fast woman being like a fast car. It dawned on me

Little red Corvette
Baby you’re much too fast
Little red Corvette
You need a love that’s gonna last

How many of you have been a little red Corvette or felt guilty of moving fast? lol It can be hard, especially when liking someone so soon. If you are looking for love, you are going to have to slow down and take it seriously. Serious means taking things slow. (refer to lyrics listed above lol โ˜๏ธ)ย  Although sex is apart of human nature, we must know how to seperate the mind from the lower anatomy in the early stages of dating when seeking a loving relationship. Many daters were lucky to still marry the one after giving it up on the first night, but in most cases it isn’t a guarantee. You should always be careful to guard your heart. (and your health.)

Coming from a guy like Prince (who is as sexual as they come, bless his soul) he is even admitting that men want love from women who aren’t fast.ย  Sometimes women will become easy and fast when they think it’s a way to get a man to love them fast (because men are stereotyped as sex hungry) but actually the anticipation and sticking to your standards is what keeps them interested. (It makes you a challenge and challenges are more exciting and adventurous like a real little red corvette.)

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Blueberry Tea and Meeee

BeautyPlus_20200809172957792_saveIt’sย  Sunday Funday so you know what that means. I prefer sipping from my selection of tea in the sun on Sundays. This afternoon’s decision of blueberry tea led me to soak in some sun at our local bakery- BAKER’S SWEETS ( It’S too bad they weren’t open because I could really use one of their blueberry muffins!! BUMMER! ๐Ÿ˜–) Although I wasn’t blue, I was in the mood to wear my beautiful blue outfit from It’s Fashion Metro.

res_1597010369548This blue top accentuates the waistline with 5 middle down buttons. What I love about it the most is the fluffy vest-like collar. The blue and white strips immediatly gives me sailor vibes.

Luckily the blue pants were stretchy material with the length of a capri wear. I accesorized with matching white beaded earrings and a necklace that dangled on my chest. I absoloutly felt my most confident in this outfit. Looking BLUE never felt so good!!!

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Why I Don’t Cuss? It’s NOT Feminine


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A lot of people ask why I never curse (cuss)..even when I was working at Blue Cross Blue Sheild they’d ask me. lol I’m okay if my friends do it because it’s funny and we crack up.ย  I’ll cuss to myself, but I never cuss around people and I don’t cuss on my posts. lol
I may get by with “damn” or “hell” from time to time ๐Ÿ˜‚ but I don’t use the “S” word or the “F” word or the “B” word.ย  I let the characters in my books use them. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ You may say not cussing is just as dry as a person who doesn’t have a fun drink on the weekend or a cheat meal during a diet (I am a sinner to those two pleasures. I surrender!!! lol)
Although I dressed like a boy growing up, (so mama put me in a lot of beauty pageants to get me more girly lol) I was always raised that cussing and being loud is not feminine and is a masculine trait..so I don’t really do it.

If my friends do it, I laugh and I’m fine with it ๐Ÿ˜‚ very normal and I don’t judge. I was told a curse is a curse lol

Here is a secret, I always found that men pursued me a lot when I never cussed or acted loud too. In high school and college, other girls did that and I’d feel left out because I didn’t know how to cuss in a cool way. When I did, they’d laugh at me because of how I talked lol. My mama always made sure we came across as respectful and it showed from home training. My sister and I were very quiet girls. ๐Ÿ™‚ and my niece is the same too….except I’d get in fist fights with boys in elementary, jr high and high school ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ My mama always said to never hit anyone until they hit me first. Yes, that is the only time I’d come out of my sweet charm. (I just didn’t cuss!) ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Simply Summer Hippie

ReNita is wearing the Astria dress from Haute Swimwear….. Straw hat is from Lime Lush Boutique ๐Ÿฅ

So when I tell you I simply love this dress I SIMPLY love this dress! Not only is it a dress, but it’s a swim suit cover up. There are times when I go to the beach and don’t want to have all the attention drawn to my curvaceous assets so this comes in handy a great deal.

I was sent this sexy little number from a company called Haute Swim Wear. Their clothing brand has swim suits, bikinis and cover ups so go check them out. I love the feel of this dress. It’s light weight and a bit see through so be sure to wear a slip underneath if you are wearing it as a dress and wear your bikini or bathing suit under if wearing it as a cover up at the beach or pool.

The feel is sheer and it has a v- neck plunging neckline with the stretchy material at the waist. (you know, the material that shows off those curves and gives you that shape.) The BEST thing about this dress is that one size fits most!

I had looked online for what seemed like hours for the perfect hat to rock with this dress so the universe showed me a company called Lime Lush. I quickly made my purchase and once it arrived, I paired the hat with the dress and realized the shaded colors screamed of lemonade on the front porch in the afternoon.

๐Ÿ‘—Astria dress by Haute Swimwear https://haute-swimwear.com/products/astria-dress-1

(use my discount: RENITA15 for Haute Swimwear)

๐Ÿ‘’Straw brim hat by Lime Lush https://www.limelush.com/natural-wide-brim-straw-hat-with-leopard-ribbon-and-bow/

Maybe She Was An Angel…

Have you ever had a friendly connection with certain people because of their energy and their vibe? They’re the kind of people that make you say, to them, “I love your energy!” because it’s what they pass along and spread to you. The next thing you know, you are in a good feeling because of them. These are the kind of people/friends you need in your life to have a positive life. That kind of experience happened to me last year.

Last summer, I would always see this elderly lady at the park getting in her miles a day. She’d always carry a stick with her and walk for what seemed like hours. She’d walk by me and smile a gentle smile everytime. One morning my car wouldn’t start. As I was sitting in the car she came up to me and asked if I needed help. I didn’t know the reason why my car wouldn’t start but she popped open my hood and told me my battery had died and that she would jump it for me. Relieved and embarassed at the same time, I thanked her. She went on to tell me the story of how she learned things from her husband and the good ole days. Moments later, a few minutes of chatting with her became an hour of laughing in conversation in the parking lot.

She told me her name was Lily and that she walks from 8am until 10am almost every morning. She told me she was in her seventies and that walking helped with her blood pressure and diabeties. I told her that my mom had the same issue and she said, “Yes, well she definitely needs to start walking.”

Later, I ended up getting my mom to walk with me and she started to feel brand new and was glad I talked to her into it. Had it not been for Mrs. Lily my mom wouldn’t have gotten the courage with me to walk. (I had been asking her for years to go on walks with me lol)

A new year came and I had gotten a new car. I would continue to go to the park and inhale the fresh air over the cascading lake, but my sweet Mrs. Lily was no where to be found. I would say a silent prayer that she was okay and that I’d meet her again one day. One evening as I was walking, I was hoping I’d walk by her. (I was losing hope that I ever would see her again.) Somehow, I noticed a lady that looked like Mrs. Lily, but she was thinner and had a grey afro. She smiled at me with that familiar gentle smile and I gasped saying, “Mrs. Lily?! Is that you?” ๐Ÿ˜Š I was so happy to see my friend again and she was happy to see me too. I explained to her how I always hoped to see her again and she told me she started coming to walk at 6am with a few friends. We caught up for a few minutes, but I really wished it was longer. We said our see you laters and went our own way…hoping to have another friendly encounter with each other again. That was the last time I saw her and I’ll never forget her. I wish I had asked for a way to stay connected with her, but I didn’t want to seem creepy lol

I would question if Mrs Lily were an angel because I never ran into her anymore since then. She had this grey hair like white snow and had that grandmotherly feeling. Sometimes just talking to her instantly made me vibrate high and she was filled with high vibrational energy. Well, angels are known to vibrate high. Unfortunatly you never run into these people again and sometimes you do.

Why is that?

No one knows.

Maybe she was an angel. ๐Ÿ˜‡

Sayin Yes To The Bianca Dress From Sincere Sally Boutique!

20200708_154215As women, we all want to feel feminine and fresh; nothing tops it off than a simple breezy dress. When Sincere Sally Boutique sent me this dress, my heart dropped as I opened the packaging. I rushed to put it on and instantly imagined myself showing it off in public. The cool fabric against my skin made me thought of a windy day at the park with some ice cream. The pink color of the dress gave a hint of summer and spring time; this is great to wear during those seasons. The warm pink color could also get by in autumn too, but since it has a flower pattern I would let it stay in the categories of summer and spring.

71UHEzDQTGL._AC_UY395_The sandals to wear with this dress will have to be white, a warm pink or a woodsy brown. Since this dress makes me feel carefree, I believe the sandals will give the perfect style and grace for that added touch.

I don’t know how I could skip not adding a bag with this dress, but I’d consider something small because this is a light styled dress. (Let’s leave the big bags for the loud clothes, ladies. lol)

Feeling confident in this Bianca dress wasn’t hard to do. I put it on and stormed out the door as heads turned and cameras snapped. Add it to your cart and you won’t be disappointed, ladies.

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Sizzle Into Summer With Summer Fashion!

 

1560382_1113777928637554_5133467365297783459_nAs soon as I felt the blazing sun on my skin and saw the clear blue skies, I instantly felt a rush of excitement. Visions of an ice cream truck, the beach and SUMMER DRESSES started to dance in my head. Let me say that again, SUMMER DRESSES! I instantly hopped on the couch amidst my episode of The Golden Girls on replay and started to online shop via my cell phone. I was as giddy as a kid in a candy store. As I strolled websites such as Fashion Nova, Ebay and Amazon there were so many choices of dresses to choose from. Summer dresses seems to make shopping for the season so easy. The bright colors are already matching the summer theme and it’s simple because it’s a dress with so many different patterns and styles.

At first I was just going to be simple and just get one dress, but then the little angel on the side of my shoulder said to me ReNita, you are treating yourself so buy one more. It will be worth the money because this is something for you. I rubbed my chin before clicking the search bar again. The next thing I know I had added a third dress to the cart.

80198793_3229442227071103_1981652534044917760_oThe first dress was this beautiful Bohemian polka dot chiffon wrap dress. I couldn’t resist staring at it, but it took me so long to decide on the yellow or the green. Of course I went with the green because it seemed like a calm color along with being summer-ish. The sway of the dress tail releases a sexy feel that I can already imagine.

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107534389_3713458248669496_4258182505940585317_nThe second dress made my jaw dropped. Green and white symbolized nature and earth and the pink belt at the waist will surely accent the waistline.ย  I am getting so many ideas of what type of jewelry to wear and I am thinking of big green hoops. This is the kind of dress that you can wear to the beach for a walk on the pier or either a brunch date with friends or that special someone.

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big drip 2Finally, the last dress! Aha! This fashionable boho dress screamed the word SEXY! I love how the design of the dress came with these zigzag patterns. The peach color around the chest will mos def make me stand out from the crowd. I hope it comes with some pockets, but if not then it’s fine with me. A khaki purse will top off the look with some khaki colored sandals. It’s both sexy and classy at the same time without revealing too much.

Well, I had to close my browser after making those purchases because I know I would have kept going, but can you believe that these dresses were under $80.00? Yes, I’m shocked as well. Maybe I could have kept going.

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