After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell 🌮, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually understand the lyrics and the meaning. I mean, growing up I always assumed he was referring to a red Corvette but aha I was misled. Prince was symbolizing a fast woman being like a fast car. It dawned on me
Little red Corvette Baby you’re much too fast Little red Corvette You need a love that’s gonna last
How many of you have been a little red Corvette or felt guilty of moving fast? lol It can be hard, especially when liking someone so soon. If you are looking for love, you are going to have to slow down and take it seriously. Serious means taking things slow. (refer to lyrics listed above lol ☝️) Although sex is apart of human nature, we must know how to seperate the mind from the lower anatomy in the early stages of dating when seeking a loving relationship. Many daters were lucky to still marry the one after giving it up on the first night, but in most cases it isn’t a guarantee. You should always be careful to guard your heart. (and your health.)
Coming from a guy like Prince (who is as sexual as they come, bless his soul) he is even admitting that men want love from women who aren’t fast. Sometimes women will become easy and fast when they think it’s a way to get a man to love them fast (because men are stereotyped as sex hungry) but actually the anticipation and sticking to your standards is what keeps them interested. (It makes you a challenge and challenges are more exciting and adventurous like a real little red corvette.)
It’s Sunday Funday so you know what that means. I prefer sipping from my selection of tea in the sun on Sundays. This afternoon’s decision of blueberry tea led me to soak in some sun at our local bakery- BAKER’S SWEETS ( It’S too bad they weren’t open because I could really use one of their blueberry muffins!! BUMMER! 😖) Although I wasn’t blue, I was in the mood to wear my beautiful blue outfit from It’s Fashion Metro.
This blue top accentuates the waistline with 5 middle down buttons. What I love about it the most is the fluffy vest-like collar. The blue and white strips immediatly gives me sailor vibes.
Luckily the blue pants were stretchy material with the length of a capri wear. I accesorized with matching white beaded earrings and a necklace that dangled on my chest. I absoloutly felt my most confident in this outfit. Looking BLUE never felt so good!!!
A lot of people ask why I never curse (cuss)..even when I was working at Blue Cross Blue Sheild they’d ask me. lol I’m okay if my friends do it because it’s funny and we crack up. I’ll cuss to myself, but I never cuss around people and I don’t cuss on my posts. lol I may get by with “damn” or “hell” from time to time 😂 but I don’t use the “S” word or the “F” word or the “B” word. I let the characters in my books use them. 😂😂😂 You may say not cussing is just as dry as a person who doesn’t have a fun drink on the weekend or a cheat meal during a diet (I am a sinner to those two pleasures. I surrender!!! lol) Although I dressed like a boy growing up, (so mama put me in a lot of beauty pageants to get me more girly lol) I was always raised that cussing and being loud is not feminine and is a masculine trait..so I don’t really do it.
If my friends do it, I laugh and I’m fine with it 😂 very normal and I don’t judge. I was told a curse is a curse lol
Here is a secret, I always found that men pursued me a lot when I never cussed or acted loud too. In high school and college, other girls did that and I’d feel left out because I didn’t know how to cuss in a cool way. When I did, they’d laugh at me because of how I talked lol. My mama always made sure we came across as respectful and it showed from home training. My sister and I were very quiet girls. 🙂 and my niece is the same too….except I’d get in fist fights with boys in elementary, jr high and high school 😂😂😂 My mama always said to never hit anyone until they hit me first. Yes, that is the only time I’d come out of my sweet charm. (I just didn’t cuss!) 😂😂😂
Have you ever had a friendly connection with certain people because of their energy and their vibe? They’re the kind of people that make you say, to them, “I love your energy!” because it’s what they pass along and spread to you. The next thing you know, you are in a good feeling because of them. These are the kind of people/friends you need in your life to have a positive life. That kind of experience happened to me last year.
Last summer, I would always see this elderly lady at the park getting in her miles a day. She’d always carry a stick with her and walk for what seemed like hours. She’d walk by me and smile a gentle smile everytime. One morning my car wouldn’t start. As I was sitting in the car she came up to me and asked if I needed help. I didn’t know the reason why my car wouldn’t start but she popped open my hood and told me my battery had died and that she would jump it for me. Relieved and embarassed at the same time, I thanked her. She went on to tell me the story of how she learned things from her husband and the good ole days. Moments later, a few minutes of chatting with her became an hour of laughing in conversation in the parking lot.
She told me her name was Lily and that she walks from 8am until 10am almost every morning. She told me she was in her seventies and that walking helped with her blood pressure and diabeties. I told her that my mom had the same issue and she said, “Yes, well she definitely needs to start walking.”
Later, I ended up getting my mom to walk with me and she started to feel brand new and was glad I talked to her into it. Had it not been for Mrs. Lily my mom wouldn’t have gotten the courage with me to walk. (I had been asking her for years to go on walks with me lol)
A new year came and I had gotten a new car. I would continue to go to the park and inhale the fresh air over the cascading lake, but my sweet Mrs. Lily was no where to be found. I would say a silent prayer that she was okay and that I’d meet her again one day. One evening as I was walking, I was hoping I’d walk by her. (I was losing hope that I ever would see her again.) Somehow, I noticed a lady that looked like Mrs. Lily, but she was thinner and had a grey afro. She smiled at me with that familiar gentle smile and I gasped saying, “Mrs. Lily?! Is that you?” 😊 I was so happy to see my friend again and she was happy to see me too. I explained to her how I always hoped to see her again and she told me she started coming to walk at 6am with a few friends. We caught up for a few minutes, but I really wished it was longer. We said our see you laters and went our own way…hoping to have another friendly encounter with each other again. That was the last time I saw her and I’ll never forget her. I wish I had asked for a way to stay connected with her, but I didn’t want to seem creepy lol
I would question if Mrs Lily were an angel because I never ran into her anymore since then. She had this grey hair like white snow and had that grandmotherly feeling. Sometimes just talking to her instantly made me vibrate high and she was filled with high vibrational energy. Well, angels are known to vibrate high. Unfortunatly you never run into these people again and sometimes you do.
As soon as I felt the blazing sun on my skin and saw the clear blue skies, I instantly felt a rush of excitement. Visions of an ice cream truck, the beach and SUMMER DRESSES started to dance in my head. Let me say that again, SUMMER DRESSES! I instantly hopped on the couch amidst my episode of The Golden Girls on replay and started to online shop via my cell phone. I was as giddy as a kid in a candy store. As I strolled websites such as Fashion Nova, Ebay and Amazon there were so many choices of dresses to choose from. Summer dresses seems to make shopping for the season so easy. The bright colors are already matching the summer theme and it’s simple because it’s a dress with so many different patterns and styles.
At first I was just going to be simple and just get one dress, but then the little angel on the side of my shoulder said to me ReNita, you are treating yourself so buy one more. It will be worth the money because this is something for you. I rubbed my chin before clicking the search bar again. The next thing I know I had added a third dress to the cart.
The first dress was this beautiful Bohemian polka dot chiffon wrap dress. I couldn’t resist staring at it, but it took me so long to decide on the yellow or the green. Of course I went with the green because it seemed like a calm color along with being summer-ish. The sway of the dress tail releases a sexy feel that I can already imagine.
The second dress made my jaw dropped. Green and white symbolized nature and earth and the pink belt at the waist will surely accent the waistline. I am getting so many ideas of what type of jewelry to wear and I am thinking of big green hoops. This is the kind of dress that you can wear to the beach for a walk on the pier or either a brunch date with friends or that special someone.
Finally, the last dress! Aha! This fashionable boho dress screamed the word SEXY! I love how the design of the dress came with these zigzag patterns. The peach color around the chest will mos def make me stand out from the crowd. I hope it comes with some pockets, but if not then it’s fine with me. A khaki purse will top off the look with some khaki colored sandals. It’s both sexy and classy at the same time without revealing too much.
Well, I had to close my browser after making those purchases because I know I would have kept going, but can you believe that these dresses were under $80.00? Yes, I’m shocked as well. Maybe I could have kept going.
Hey you. Yeah you. The one sobbing and crying constantly checking your phone to see if you have a miss call or a text. You’ve already sent him 3 messages before he has even responded. You’re checking his page constantly and seeing whose photos he’s liking as you dwell in self pity. Okay. STOP IT! Pull yourself together and let it go like Elsa.. (Insert cheesy song from Disney’s Frozen here __________.)
Women go into overthinking mode and an ego reduction once they feel a guy has lost interest or has pulled away. Maybe it’s not you, maybe it’s him, maybe it’s you or…maybe he’s just intimadated. Have you ever thought of that? Men are very nervous at times and they don’t show it. I have had this happened to me in 2011; especially where some guys used to ghost me. The weird thing was that they even told me they felt intimadated because I was beautiful or was an author.
Total opposite and confusing right? 🙄
It seems backwards, right? Yes I know. I would think that being beautiful and doing something that showcased my talent wasn’t anything to make anyone scared; but sometimes it does. (For the scary guys who were afraid of chances, yeah.) So before you rest your head on your tear soaked pillow self sabotaging yourself, keep in mind that THAT could be a reason as to why your knight in shining armour ghosted you. (or has pulled away.) Sometimes people have things going on in their lives, but if they wanted you then they will make sure they show their existence sometimes….in fear of losing you.
If he ghosted you due to lack of interest, he could have been doing you a favor. You did nothing, but sometimes the chemistry may not be there and the universe designs it. (It’s called mutual connection.)
Not to mention that sometimes you are blinded by illusions (believing he is amazing when he hasn’t even done amazing things for you; so instead you are just imagining what it would be like and falling for a daydream. Women do this all the time when they get too excited too soon and it leads to getting hurt. Be careful..move step by step…that’s why they call it ‘building a relationship.)
When you are in the early stage don’t start daydreaming about the future yet. If he was never in a relationship with you then save your energy for someone that’s worth deserving of it. If he treats you like an option and never a priority then you have an answer. Save yourself some time and use this time to heal and regrow…regrow like green grass. (Just watch out for snakes 😚🐍)
I was asked what made me get a Camaro..lol I got a Camaro because I would be impressed whenever I dated guys with sports cars. The rush of excitement I’d get whenever they’d speed on the highway with me beside them.
The car wax and the nice rims.
The looks and stares that other people would give to see who was inside the car. 😂 PRICELESS!
I felt like a movie star.
I’ve always liked when guys drove sports cars sooooo I decided to save up and impress myself lol I wanted the same feeling all the time without thinking the only time I could get in a sports car was through men I dated.
The other reason was because when I was a little girl, I saw this skinny blond woman driving a red sportscar. I had to have been around 10 or 11 years old. I told my dad that when I grow up that I was going to get one like her. (pointing at the lady who inspired me. 😂) Well….he fussed with me for hours and said I couldn’t get one because I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth. 😂 I didn’t let that mental doubt succumb me. Now whenever dad comes over he is taking photos of my car and always asking to take it for a ride. Lol 😂 However, I’d like to get a Masarati next but I am thankful. Word of advice: Don’t put a limit or a hold on what you want. Don’t think you have to get the easy way to get a small piece of the big things. Ya digggg?
💐Okay so I can imagine all the weird facial expressions that people would give me when I told them I’ve never received flowers from a man before. I’ve had people tell me, “Yeah right. You lying!” but honestly I’m not. sips tea ☕😂 By the way, tulips are my favorite flowers. 😊 So I guess I’m just a bit old fashioned, huh? I love nice things, but the little gestures means so much. Receiving a text that says “Good morning baby, good morning queen.” is the closest thing to receiving flowers sometimes.
The feeling of importance and being on someone’s thoughts is just like virtually handing me flowers. I get all giggly and roll around in bed whenever I’d receive a morning text. I can only imagine what it will be like when I am gifted flowers 😂. Sigh. When dating, I never ask a man because I wait to see if he will so I am waiting 😂 (or hinting. Lol)
Not sure if men still think flowers are a sweet gesture because times have changed. I love flowers because I enjoy gardening and growing flowers. Flowers remind me of a beautiful woman that’s rare to find. They should be cared for and nurtured, they’re delicate and they attract bees and butterflies (just like women attract men and are pursued.)
The sight and smell of flowers always uplifts my mood and they are so naturally beautiful within and out. It’s amazing how something created from God can grow from the earth and just be a simple expression to save a relationship at times. Not many women care about flowers as much as I do, I’m told. I was told that some men don’t believe in giving flowers anymore because they think all women want material things.
What I am saying is, while I don’t mind being spoiled, a bouquet of flowers makes me happy. 😊 I know I could have just asked guys and had them given to me, but I don’t want to to ask for special moments like that. I want whom ever I’m with to just surprise me and catch me off guard. I love surprises!! 😊 I used to feel like a misfit because so many girls and women have already experienced that moment and here I am at age 34 still awaiting like a 15 year old at a sleepover ; giggling about what her first kiss will be like lol
The good thing about it is that who ever gives me my flowers will be the first, making him someone to stand out than anyone from my past. 😊
I’ve had guys tell me they would have given me flowers but it was usually the ones I wasn’t interested in lol (topsy turvy, huh?) lol My best friend told me that his girlfriend is 35 and that he was the first to give her flowers. Everyone has their season or flower season. Everyone has their once in a life time moment that happens on it’s own without force.
I remember thinking, how is it that they call me I’m beautiful but I haven’t received flowers yet? I’d be thinking, ‘Is there something wrong with me?’ Hahaha but no, there is nothing wrong with me and I don’t want any other woman to feel that way either. I see it as God holding off on that moment so the man meant for me will show off. God saves things that are meant to be special for you for the special person and at the special time. Just as when you have to wait until Christmas to open your amazing gifts, it will feel more special. I have a bucket list of things I am still waiting to do that I haven’t experienced yet with a man and I know it’s a sign from God that those moments will be shared with the one I may marry …making it the best!!!!😉
So raise your glasses and make a toast 🥂 for knowing that your inexperience is a gift awaiting to be unwrapped. ..
For the moment, see yourself as a flower awaiting to be sniffed by a handsome and rare bee. 🌺🐝
To be envied or to inspire??..that is the question. I had a girl told me she used to be jealous of me and I was a bit surprised.. Honestly I’d rather inspire people than to be envied. If people are envious then you have no friends and I only have a few…. always wanted a big group of positive girlfriends. I feel if we inspire others then there will be no room for envy because people will be motivated to become their best self. Your energy will light theirs up just from yours being bright. Ever been around certain people that just made you feel an energy boost just from being around them? That’s what you should feel and who you should be around.
If not, be the one to help them feel positive by first working on yourself and becoming your greatest version.
When I’d find out someone felt that way I’d be like “There is no need to be if you knew all the sad things I overcame.” I am thankful I can use that to motivate others. God kept me and I am still here. Be thankful. Smile. Love. Focus on what’s best for you in this life you have. 🙃🌞 Life is too short. Great memories last longer. Make them.
Alas! I completed my first 10k run/walk. The goal had been on my mind for months so I signed up for the Cooper River Bridge Run months ago. Although the Covid 19 pandemic caused the race to be canceled in April, participants had the option to complete it virtually or wait until the late summer of August. Disappointed, I took matters into my own hands and continued to complete the goal I had my mind set on. I transferred over to the virtual race. At first I was I was like, man I really just want to run over the bridge with the Charleston batterty around me, the river and the marinas. What fun would it be? But of course, when I found out that hundreds of participants were having fun doing the run virtually within their neighborhood or preferred location I hopped on board. Sometimes you have to turn the worst situation into a positive one and not give up.
Grabbing my tennis shoes and my yoga pants and tee, I tossed my natural kinky hair into a bun and picked the location of our local lake park to complete my 10k. Nevermind ignoring the safety cautions for Covid 19, I quickly put on my medical mask and hit the ground running.
The atmosphere was refreshing and the people around me were friendly; some were fishing, riding bikes or getting in their healthy mile.
Adding more power to my walk, I kept going- harder and harder. A group of friends walked together. They spoke. I spoke and smiled; realizing my smile was unnoticable under my mask. I thought it was a positive thing for them to be doing; walking in a group together to meet their fitness goals.
2 miles in within 35 minutes. Great! ONLY 4 miles to go!
I ran some. I walked some. Ran some. My nose ran and eyes watered from the wind, but I couldn’t stop then. I kept on going. I kept pushing myself. By the time I made it to my 5th mile people were staring at me as if I were crazy because I was going around the park so many times. An hour in. Almost there. I was dizzy. I was thirsty. I kept going. I couldn’t give up. The sun was burning my big forehead, but it was just giving me the vitamin D I needed. No harm done.
Kids were fishing with their father as the sun was setting in the distance; a beautiful mist of orange over the horizon.
Almost there! Almost there! 🕠
Damn! I left my bottle of water in the car.
My mouth is dry!
But…I won’t stop. Can’t stop!
An elderly couple was in my way walking their pup, it’s fluffy tail wagged in front of them. I ran around them to get ahead. I needed more space.
My mom’s annoying self texted me. 🤦♀️Ugghh! Can’t she see I’m busy? Lol
Mama: You almost done?
Me: Yes mama! Geez!
Mama: Okay! Look behind you and be careful.
Putting my phone away, I looked down at my tracker. Phew. A few seconds left.
6.21miles….6.22 miles … I did it!!! Although I could have done better, I didn’t beat myself up. My mask was annoying my breathing and my mom kept texting 😂 but I am still happy! I did it! I didn’t back out! It was my first 10k and it was a big challenge for me! Something I never thought I could do and something I’m blessed and was able to do. This will definitly help me get better and see the difference in my next 10k! I am so thrilled! We should all be thankful we’re able to walk and move around. It’s a blessing! Get up and get moving! Set a healthy goal with being active. I did!! Now I must screenshot my results to the Cooper River Bridge people and receive a medal!!!!! 😌🏆🏅🏅🏅
Of course, I staggered back to my car and went home to soak in a bubble bath. It was NEEDED! 😂