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20200816_125851I just finished my 2 miles and I almost wanted to stop, but I kept pushing through to get to the end. I was always told if you want something hard enough you have to put in effort and make it happen. You can’t just sit around and wait for things to happen without kicking and pushing forward.

You must learn to kick through the walls and push away the negative. This concept is applied sometimes in Karate and even with skateboarding. (All thanks to Lupe Fiasco’s hip hop hit Kick Push.) When you see karate you see the martial artists going against the oppentant he pushes him and kicks him, blocking him from trying to win his victory.

In skateboarding, the skateboarders have a technique with their foot where they push to get some good motion and kick to glide through. I find it interesting that we must use the same techniques in life, but mentally. Are you kicking and pushing through all the BS in order to win your victory? Are you gliding through?

Are You A Little Red Corvette? Fast and Easy?

20200814_002832After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell 🌮, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually understand the lyrics and the meaning. I mean, growing up I always assumed he was referring to a red Corvette but aha I was misled. Prince was symbolizing a fast woman being like a fast car. It dawned on me

Little red Corvette
Baby you’re much too fast
Little red Corvette
You need a love that’s gonna last

How many of you have been a little red Corvette or felt guilty of moving fast? lol It can be hard, especially when liking someone so soon. If you are looking for love, you are going to have to slow down and take it seriously. Serious means taking things slow. (refer to lyrics listed above lol ☝️)  Although sex is apart of human nature, we must know how to seperate the mind from the lower anatomy in the early stages of dating when seeking a loving relationship. Many daters were lucky to still marry the one after giving it up on the first night, but in most cases it isn’t a guarantee. You should always be careful to guard your heart. (and your health.)

Coming from a guy like Prince (who is as sexual as they come, bless his soul) he is even admitting that men want love from women who aren’t fast.  Sometimes women will become easy and fast when they think it’s a way to get a man to love them fast (because men are stereotyped as sex hungry) but actually the anticipation and sticking to your standards is what keeps them interested. (It makes you a challenge and challenges are more exciting and adventurous like a real little red corvette.)

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Blueberry Tea and Meeee

BeautyPlus_20200809172957792_saveIt’s  Sunday Funday so you know what that means. I prefer sipping from my selection of tea in the sun on Sundays. This afternoon’s decision of blueberry tea led me to soak in some sun at our local bakery- BAKER’S SWEETS ( It’S too bad they weren’t open because I could really use one of their blueberry muffins!! BUMMER! 😖) Although I wasn’t blue, I was in the mood to wear my beautiful blue outfit from It’s Fashion Metro.

res_1597010369548This blue top accentuates the waistline with 5 middle down buttons. What I love about it the most is the fluffy vest-like collar. The blue and white strips immediatly gives me sailor vibes.

Luckily the blue pants were stretchy material with the length of a capri wear. I accesorized with matching white beaded earrings and a necklace that dangled on my chest. I absoloutly felt my most confident in this outfit. Looking BLUE never felt so good!!!

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* Location: Baker’s Sweets Lake City, SC

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Why I Don’t Cuss? It’s NOT Feminine


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A lot of people ask why I never curse (cuss)..even when I was working at Blue Cross Blue Sheild they’d ask me. lol I’m okay if my friends do it because it’s funny and we crack up.  I’ll cuss to myself, but I never cuss around people and I don’t cuss on my posts. lol
I may get by with “damn” or “hell” from time to time 😂 but I don’t use the “S” word or the “F” word or the “B” word.  I let the characters in my books use them. 😂😂😂 You may say not cussing is just as dry as a person who doesn’t have a fun drink on the weekend or a cheat meal during a diet (I am a sinner to those two pleasures. I surrender!!! lol)
Although I dressed like a boy growing up, (so mama put me in a lot of beauty pageants to get me more girly lol) I was always raised that cussing and being loud is not feminine and is a masculine trait..so I don’t really do it.

If my friends do it, I laugh and I’m fine with it 😂 very normal and I don’t judge. I was told a curse is a curse lol

Here is a secret, I always found that men pursued me a lot when I never cussed or acted loud too. In high school and college, other girls did that and I’d feel left out because I didn’t know how to cuss in a cool way. When I did, they’d laugh at me because of how I talked lol. My mama always made sure we came across as respectful and it showed from home training. My sister and I were very quiet girls. 🙂 and my niece is the same too….except I’d get in fist fights with boys in elementary, jr high and high school 😂😂😂 My mama always said to never hit anyone until they hit me first. Yes, that is the only time I’d come out of my sweet charm. (I just didn’t cuss!) 😂😂😂

Maybe She Was An Angel…

Have you ever had a friendly connection with certain people because of their energy and their vibe? They’re the kind of people that make you say, to them, “I love your energy!” because it’s what they pass along and spread to you. The next thing you know, you are in a good feeling because of them. These are the kind of people/friends you need in your life to have a positive life. That kind of experience happened to me last year.

Last summer, I would always see this elderly lady at the park getting in her miles a day. She’d always carry a stick with her and walk for what seemed like hours. She’d walk by me and smile a gentle smile everytime. One morning my car wouldn’t start. As I was sitting in the car she came up to me and asked if I needed help. I didn’t know the reason why my car wouldn’t start but she popped open my hood and told me my battery had died and that she would jump it for me. Relieved and embarassed at the same time, I thanked her. She went on to tell me the story of how she learned things from her husband and the good ole days. Moments later, a few minutes of chatting with her became an hour of laughing in conversation in the parking lot.

She told me her name was Lily and that she walks from 8am until 10am almost every morning. She told me she was in her seventies and that walking helped with her blood pressure and diabeties. I told her that my mom had the same issue and she said, “Yes, well she definitely needs to start walking.”

Later, I ended up getting my mom to walk with me and she started to feel brand new and was glad I talked to her into it. Had it not been for Mrs. Lily my mom wouldn’t have gotten the courage with me to walk. (I had been asking her for years to go on walks with me lol)

A new year came and I had gotten a new car. I would continue to go to the park and inhale the fresh air over the cascading lake, but my sweet Mrs. Lily was no where to be found. I would say a silent prayer that she was okay and that I’d meet her again one day. One evening as I was walking, I was hoping I’d walk by her. (I was losing hope that I ever would see her again.) Somehow, I noticed a lady that looked like Mrs. Lily, but she was thinner and had a grey afro. She smiled at me with that familiar gentle smile and I gasped saying, “Mrs. Lily?! Is that you?” 😊 I was so happy to see my friend again and she was happy to see me too. I explained to her how I always hoped to see her again and she told me she started coming to walk at 6am with a few friends. We caught up for a few minutes, but I really wished it was longer. We said our see you laters and went our own way…hoping to have another friendly encounter with each other again. That was the last time I saw her and I’ll never forget her. I wish I had asked for a way to stay connected with her, but I didn’t want to seem creepy lol

I would question if Mrs Lily were an angel because I never ran into her anymore since then. She had this grey hair like white snow and had that grandmotherly feeling. Sometimes just talking to her instantly made me vibrate high and she was filled with high vibrational energy. Well, angels are known to vibrate high. Unfortunatly you never run into these people again and sometimes you do.

Why is that?

No one knows.

Maybe she was an angel. 😇

MY TESTIMONY OF HOW JESUS HEALED MY LOW BLOOD

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I promised I’d tell my testimony of being in the hospital last week..for low blood anemia…when my body was in pain and I couldn’t walk, talk or eat from being so weak and a fever of 105. I was shaking and after dealing with the pain for 2 days in my home I forced myself to drive to the ER. All I could do was call on Jesus as I was withering in the hospital bed…and He healed me before the doctors gave me anything. I promised my story would be as detailed bc if I am gonna tell about what He did for me and when the doctors were confused I wanna tell it right… it’s been so hard to explain because what He did for me was …unexplainable.

I want my message to be right. As I was in that bed as the doctors were trying to find the root of my fever and anemia I was saying “If you can heal a blind man, a bleeding woman, a deaf man and a sick girl then I know you can heal me.” At one point I was worried about calling on Jesus because I was ashamed I hadn’t been to church in so long although I never turned away from Jesus but I used to be  praying to God, my ancestors, (sometimes deities 🙅‍♀️)..and would leave out one person..JESUS (over the years) I was in that sick bed saying “Why are my spirits telling me to call on you when I have spent so long away from my relationship with you?”  I grew up a strict Christian child in the church, got saved at 10 years old knew my bible from beginning to end, but later I did my own thing.  I had always been a messenger all my life and I work as a spiritual advisor using my gift that have helped thousands, but God got my attention and messaged me deeper than ever.

The spirit of the lord told me “Dont worry about how long it’s been since you’ve grown away from me…because I can get you back on instantly as fast as you fall in love with me. I will knock and you all you have to do is open your door (your heart) and let me step in. That will make up for all the time apart from me. If your faith is doubtless then I will make a way.”

As soon as I heard that and believed the message, my fever dropped, my back and stomach stopped aching and the chills and fever that had me shaking stopped. The nurses saw that I was better but still gave me IV’s, meds but decides to keep me in the hospital for extra care. They told me the medication a doctor had me on had caused so much and another day later they said they aren’t sure how the fever died down . They gave me a blood transfusion my last day just to be sure I’d be okay lol but it must have been holy blood because my visions and intuition and power had increased. I know the angels were roaming that hospital because I could have felt them there.

I knew they were working with the nurses and the doctors and the staff to take care of me correctly and they did…as soon as I found out the doctor that took care of me was related to me through my deceased grandmother Mary and a nurse that suddenly walked into my room to check on me happened to be a cousin I hadn’t seen since we were little girls.. (sent by my late great aunt Lena; her grandmother 😇😱) I knew they were sending me signs and signals. I KID YOU NOT!!!

ALL THE SIGNS WERE COMING OUT OF NOWHERE THAT ANGELS WERE WITH ME AND JESUS WAS WITH ME… I went in that hospital sick and weak for 3 days and rose better and stronger than EVER (like Jesus after 3 days) I realized I can’t do it without Him and haven’t been able to put my bible down ever since because I wanna keep that prescence I felt from Him going. It’s a good feeling.

I remember when I always thought I needed to wear crystal bracelets for protection but I need no tools..crystals, candles etc is good for the mood but no need to rely on those things when your faith in Jesus is bullet proof. You don’t have to be super religious to have Him in your life (I’m very spiritual) but if you have a relationship with Him and if you live right and let Him use you for guidance and not follow up the mind control that evil people have used through Him then that is all that matters.

All I can see is that He never left me, He gives second chances, He wants you to live a happy life and He wants your faith. If I hadn’t called on Him I’m not sure I would have gotten a good report in the hospital. I just thought I’d share that bc I owed it to Him..He doesn’t require much but love and for you to tell what He has done for you so others will believe. I can’t without Him. Since being home I have been ENERGIZED, HAPPIER AND I FEEL HEALTHIER!!! 🥰🥰☺️ Had that not happened to me, I wouldn’t have been as closer to Him. Thank you Jesus!

He’s Just Not That Into You..or He’s Just That Intimidated, Sis!

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Hey you. Yeah you. The one sobbing and crying constantly checking your phone to see if you have a miss call or a text. You’ve already sent him 3 messages before he has even responded. You’re checking his page constantly and seeing whose photos he’s liking as you dwell in self pity. Okay. STOP IT! Pull yourself together and let it go like Elsa.. (Insert cheesy song from Disney’s Frozen here __________.)

Women go into overthinking mode and an ego reduction once they feel a guy has lost interest or has pulled away. Maybe it’s not you, maybe it’s him, maybe it’s you or…maybe he’s just intimadated. Have you ever thought of that? Men are very nervous at times and they don’t show it. I have had this happened to me in 2011; especially where some guys used to ghost me. The weird thing was that they even told me they felt intimadated because I was beautiful or was an author.

Total opposite and confusing right? 🙄

It seems backwards, right? Yes I know. I would think that being beautiful and doing something that showcased my talent wasn’t anything to make anyone scared; but sometimes it does. (For the scary guys who were afraid of chances, yeah.) So before you rest your head on your tear soaked pillow self sabotaging yourself, keep in mind that THAT could be a reason as to why your knight in shining armour ghosted you. (or has pulled away.) Sometimes people have things going on in their lives, but if they wanted you then they will make sure they show their existence sometimes….in fear of losing you.

If he ghosted you due to lack of interest, he could have been doing you a favor. You did nothing, but sometimes the chemistry may not be there and the universe designs it. (It’s called mutual connection.)

Not to mention that sometimes you are blinded by illusions (believing he is amazing when he hasn’t even done amazing things for you; so instead you are just imagining what it would be like and falling for a daydream. Women do this all the time when they get too excited too soon and it leads to getting hurt. Be careful..move step by step…that’s why they call it ‘building a relationship.)

When you are in the early stage don’t start daydreaming about the future yet. If he was never in a relationship with you then save your energy for someone that’s worth deserving of it. If he treats you like an option and never a priority then you have an answer. Save yourself some time and use this time to heal and regrow…regrow like green grass. (Just watch out for snakes 😚🐍)

To Be Envied Or Inspire..

To be envied or to inspire??..that is the question. I had a girl told me she used to be jealous of me and I was a bit surprised.. Honestly I’d rather inspire people than to be envied. If people are envious then you have no friends and I only have a few…. always wanted a big group of positive girlfriends. I feel if we inspire others then there will be no room for envy because people will be motivated to become their best self. Your energy will light theirs up just from yours being bright.  Ever been around certain people that just made you feel an energy boost just from being around them? That’s what you should feel and who you should be around.

If not, be the one to help them feel positive by first working on yourself and becoming your greatest version.

When I’d find out someone felt that way I’d be like “There is no need to be if you knew all the sad things I overcame.” I am thankful I can use that to motivate others. God kept me and I am still here.  Be thankful. Smile. Love. Focus on what’s best for you in this life you have. 🙃🌞 Life is too short. Great memories last longer. Make them.

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Confessions Of A Coffee Addict.. ☕(replacing coffee ..ugghh..the pain)

Ditching my coffee for organic smoothies starting Tuesday. Let’s see if I can do this for 30 days or forever!! *screams like a guitarist from a metal hair band 😱.. Although I will miss the roasting smell of coffee brewing in the mornings☕ followed by milky cream of hazelnut added. 🤦‍♀️ I crave just from the thought of it, but it’s a habit I am trying to cut out. 😂
       (Sigh 😌) The urge for coffee started when an aunt of mine was visiting. See, every morning I’d wake up to the smell of her brewing Maxwell House or Folgers. 🤨 The scent tempted me.  Curious and confused on why so many Americans take a leap to this stimulant, I tried it. (only to become an addict.) Since I am already a health nut and I workout 5 days a week, my good angel😇 on my right shoulder said, “Why not just replace coffee with healthy smoothies in the morning?” However, my devil angel 😈on my left shoulder laughed and said, “Girl, you know you need your coffee! You’re an author! Coffee helps with your imagination.”
I rolled my eyes. I sighed. Annoyed.
I feel like it is a healthy mental goal to complete and I’m ready to give it a try.
(A try to start my mornings dry, right?🤦‍♀️😂)
Not really! Mind you I will be pouring a refreshing smoothie into my Starbucks mug and savoring the moment. *sticks nose in the air.* Now EXCUSEE me as I add a variety of fruits and veggies for smoothie blends into the cart of my online shopping app. 😊
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You See Their Rainbows,🌈 But Maybe They’ve Had Storms…. ⛈

Sometimes people will hate on you for no reason before they know your whole story. Lol WELL….I’m not perfect. My body was never as fit. My skin isn’t that perfect (I’m just a genius with how to do makeup lol) Sometimes I talk so fast you may not understand me but I love it.  I was never the person I am now. I went thru some deeeep hell during the ages 18-23 so I don’t even know how I survived. God and His angels had to have got me through so mucg.  If you hate on someone (or maybe throw shade) please stop and think for a second and maybe be happy for them. You may not even know what they had to go through before they got blessed. You may not know how many jobs turned them down before they got that promotion. Maybe they got their license late in life before they got a Camaro  *hint hint* You may not know what they been through before they got that wedding ring 
I heard this girl tell me, “Renita I don’t be seein how you do so much and look so good with all you have going on. You’re an author and you started some businesses.”

I was flattered but girl, I learned a lot. I’m a student of life but now I’m the teacher. For one, if you want to be happy in life you have to learn to be happy by depending on happiness with yourself…know thyself..then you can be happy with someone …bc it’s healthier that way.  Never feel like you can’t be happy UNLESS you have someone. Be happy to share your happiness WITH someone but already be happy and work on you.  If you want to be successful then you need a plan, you need effort and to follow through. Learn to save some money and be wise.

Love you, 🥰
Renita XOXO